{"id":67130,"date":"2024-02-01T15:27:17","date_gmt":"2024-02-01T08:27:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/alternatech.net\/?p=67130"},"modified":"2024-02-02T10:45:03","modified_gmt":"2024-02-02T03:45:03","slug":"8-lessons-truths-all-moms-of-boys-learn-very-early-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/8-lessons-truths-all-moms-of-boys-learn-very-early-on\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Lessons & Truths All Moms of Boys Learn Very Early On"},"content":{"rendered":"

1. All boy moms get a crash course in thinking fast on their feet\n
Do you know how every movie depicting new moms of boys has that scene where she\u2019s changing his diaper and he projectile pees all over her? Until I actually had a son, I always thought those scenes were a joke. Surely boys don\u2019t actually do that, right?\n
One of the very first lessons my son taught me was just how wrong I was. The second thing he taught me is how to quickly think on my feet (and how to duck & cover!), a lesson that definitely applies not only to other parts of parenting but to life in general.\n
Oh, and don\u2019t think the \u201clessons learned from pee\u201d stop coming once they\u2019re out of diapers. You have many more wonderful lessons ahead of you, like how to check a toilet seat BEFORE you sit down.\u00a0\n
2. Boys can be just as \u201cdramatic\u201d as girls\n
I remember coming across a \u201cboy mom truths\u201d post years ago that said something like having boys means you don\u2019t have to deal with as much drama. Well, let me tell you, boys can be just as dramatic as girls!\n
One of my friends says, \u201cI had to buy a children\u2019s anatomy book to teach my son how blood is made just to prove that he would NOT bleed out and die from a paper cut. So don\u2019t tell me boys aren\u2019t dramatic.\u201d\n
That said, I never really liked the term \u201coverly dramatic.\u201d Kids have very big feelings and they\u2019re not afraid to show them. I think we could all stand to be a bit more dramatic in that sense, don\u2019t you?\n
3. Toxic masculinity is a very real issue that you\u2019ll think about a lot\n
While I think as a society are getting better at recognizing toxic masculinity, it\u2019s still a very real issue, and we moms of boys spend a lot of time thinking about it. Most of us grew up in the age of “boys don\u2019t cry,\u201d or \u201cboys will be boys,\u201d so we had to work to recondition our minds to let go of that junk.\n
We\u2019re actively looking for ways to make ourselves better so that we can raise happier and healthier sons. That alone makes us far more conscious of just how much toxic masculinity still exists. People will tell you that you\u2019re making your son \u201ctoo soft,\u201d or raising a mama\u2019s boy. My reply? GOOD! I want my son to know that it\u2019s okay to show emotions, and I truly believe that there\u2019s absolutely nothing wrong with raising a mama\u2019s boy.\n
Hopefully, we\u2019ll do a good enough job with our kids that our grandsons won\u2019t ever hear the words \u201creal men don\u2019t\u201d in their lifetime.\n
4. You\u2019ll worry about them just as much as you do\/would your daughter\n
One of the things my \u201cdaughters only\u201d friends said is that at least boy moms don\u2019t have to worry so much for their kids\u2019 safety. Yes, statistically, there are more violent acts committed against girls than boys in America, but that doesn\u2019t make me feel any better.\n
Statistics don\u2019t change the fact that I worry just as much about my son when he\u2019s not with me as I do my daughter. Mothers worry, regardless of their child\u2019s gender. Period.\n
5. Raising sons comes with great responsibility\n
One of my favorite quotes about raising boys comes from Shannon Alder. She said, \u201cTo be a mother of a son is one of the most important things you can do to change the world. Raise them to respect women, raise them to stand up for others, raise them to be kind.\u201d\n
I take that responsibility very seriously. As a mom to a daughter, too, I do worry about those statistics I just mentioned above. I want to raise my son to be the kind of man that I\u2019d want my daughter to end up with if that makes sense.\n
6. A son is a son for life, and don\u2019t let anyone tell you otherwise\n
I really dislike that old saying, \u201cA daughter is a daughter for life, a son is a son until he takes a wife.\u201d First, it\u2019s complete and utter bunk. I know plenty of adult men who are still just as close to their moms as their sisters are.\n
Second, it feeds into that bizarre myth that daughters-in-law are born and sworn enemies to moms of boys everywhere. It also keeps us locked in a weird self-fulfilling prophecy cycle. We think our son\u2019s wife is trying to take him from us, so we treat her badly. He doesn\u2019t want to see his wife hurt by your rejection, so he visits less often. Then we say, \u201cSee! She took him from us!\u201d Seems kind of unfair, doesn\u2019t it?\n
Allison McDonald Ace puts it beautifully in her article on Today\u2019s Parent. She wrote,\n
\u201cWhat it really comes down to, regardless of sex or gender\u2013or anything else\u2013is the relationship between you and them. What it has only and will only ever be about is your unique relationship with your son. No one else\u2019s negative experience has any bearing on the outcome of your life with your boys. Full stop.\u201d\n
7. Sometimes, you\u2019ll miss the daughter you never had\n
This one comes from a \u201csons only\u201d friend. She said that she sometimes wonders what it would be like to have a daughter. \u201cI wouldn\u2019t trade my son for anything,\u201d she says. \u201cI love being a boy mom. Still, there are moments where I \u2018miss\u2019 my non-existent little girl. Does that make me weird?\u201d\n
Nope, it doesn\u2019t make her weird at all. In fact, a lot of moms of boys only that I talked to say the same thing. They love having sons, but they do have at least fleeting \u201cI wonder what my daughter would have been like\u201d moments. I imagine that girls-only moms feel the same way about boys, too, though.\n
8. You wouldn\u2019t change a thing\n
As my friend explains, \u201cWhen I pictured raising kids, I always pictured daughters. It took me six years to get pregnant, and I was convinced right up until the day of my ultrasound that I was having a girl.\n
Then Mr. Winky showed up on the screen, and I was a boy mom. Just like that. In that moment, even in my surprise, I knew that I wouldn\u2019t trade him for anything. He was my dream come true, even if the dream threw in a bit of a plot twist.\u201d\n
If there\u2019s one truth all moms of boys know, it\u2019s this one. If you could go back in time and choose between having a daughter or a son, you\u2019d choose your son over and over and over again.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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