{"id":67949,"date":"2024-02-08T14:22:16","date_gmt":"2024-02-08T07:22:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/alternatech.net\/?p=67949"},"modified":"2024-02-08T14:22:16","modified_gmt":"2024-02-08T07:22:16","slug":"stop-wasting-time-explaining-yourself-you-have-nothing-to-prove-to-anyone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/stop-wasting-time-explaining-yourself-you-have-nothing-to-prove-to-anyone\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Wasting Time Explaining Yourself, You Have Nothing to Prove to Anyone"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4><span style='\"font-size:'>Just walk away and don\u2019t look back\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Instead of putting yourself (and your poor friend who just wanted to say that she likes bananas) through all of that, just back away. It\u2019s that easy. Just say your piece and let it be. If you really, really must respond, copy and paste these words (and keep them handy); \u201cI know why I feel the way I do and that\u2019s all that matters. I owe you no explanation.\u201d Oh, and then tell them to have a nice day. People rearing for a fight absolutely despise when you do that. As the saying goes, kill them with kindness!\n<h4><span style='\"font-size:'>Don\u2019t look back!\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Then, be okay with that. Walk away. Don\u2019t look back. Did you know that you can hide posts on Facebook? Learn to love that feature. You\u2019ll feel a lot better! Accept that your side is just that- yours. Be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. Those who accept you are worthy of your time. Those that don\u2019t get it can go to\u2026well, you know where they can go\n<h4><span style='\"font-size:'>Let them judge, just don\u2019t give them the satisfaction of listening\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Let them judge away, but just let their criticism fall on proverbial \u201cdeaf ears.\u201d Does that make sense? In other words, don\u2019t listen to them and, more importantly, don\u2019t waste your energy explaining yourself to them. Imagine how much time it\u2019ll free up! You could actually read War and Peace instead of living it! I have no idea what that book is about, I\u2019ve never actually read it myself. Has anyone really?\n<h4><span style='\"font-size:'>Write your response, but don\u2019t hit \u201center\u201d\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>If you\u2019re having a hard time letting things go and you really feel like you need to say your piece, try this: Open up your notepad program or app and type out your response there. Go nuts. Call them names if you want. Let it all out. Spend an absurd amount of time on it.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Then delete it. Yep, delete it. Think about how much time you just wasted explaining yourself to someone who, honestly, doesn\u2019t even care about your explanation. Then ask yourself if you really want to waste that much time rewriting the whole thing. If the answer is \u201cyes,\u201d do it all again. And again. And again, until it finally sinks in that you\u2019re wasting an inordinate amount of time trying to appease someone who, in the grand scheme of things, is really just no one to you.\n<h4><span style='\"font-size:'>Stop explaining yourself to people who don\u2019t matter to you\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>That sounds harsh, I know. Everyone matters in some way, and everyone is worthy of kindness &amp; compassion. But as far as explaining yourself goes, IamaSnob785 truly doesn\u2019t matter. You don\u2019t know her and she doesn\u2019t know you. The chances of you actually ever meeting her, let alone having to interact with her outside of Facebook, are so astronomical that they\u2019re practically zero. So, honestly, who gives a rat\u2019s behind if she likes your political viewpoints or agrees with your stance on butter versus margarine?\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Why drive yourself nuts trying to make total strangers see your viewpoint, especially when you know deep down that they never will? Let me repeat this one more time for the people in the back: you will NEVER EVER EVER change someone\u2019s mind just because you explained yourself and laid out a valid list of reasons for your feelings. They will ALWAYS find a way to pick it apart.\n<h4><span style='\"font-size:'>Be who you are and say what you feel!\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don\u2019t matter and those who matter don\u2019t mind.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>On that last note, I\u2019ll let you go with one final quote from the world\u2019s greatest Dr (that would be Seuss). \u201cBe who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don\u2019t matter and those who matter don\u2019t mind.\u201d A brilliant mind, that Seuss! No truer words, right?\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Just walk away and don\u2019t look back Instead of putting yourself (and your poor friend who just wanted to say that she likes bananas) through all of that, just back away. It\u2019s that easy. Just say your piece and let it be. 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