{"id":70321,"date":"2024-03-13T15:44:25","date_gmt":"2024-03-13T08:44:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/alternatech.net\/?p=70321"},"modified":"2024-05-14T14:49:28","modified_gmt":"2024-05-14T07:49:28","slug":"respect-and-love-your-parents-while-you-can","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/respect-and-love-your-parents-while-you-can\/","title":{"rendered":"Respect and Love Your Parents While You Can"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class='\"HGgf\"'><span style='\"font-size:'>Just because she&rsquo;s your mom and she&rsquo;s going to love you forever, no matter what you can&rsquo;t treat her just any old way and think it doesn&rsquo;t matter. Don&rsquo;t treat the person who loves you the most&hellip; the worst. Don&rsquo;t take her for granted. She may not let you see it, but your shortness, impatience and harsh words make her steal away to a quiet place and cry. Her heart hurts to understand why you seem angry with her. She will not always agree with you, but she will always love you. And it doesn&rsquo;t matter how old you are, or how old she is, treasure your mom. You&rsquo;ll never have another one\n<h4><span style='\"color:' font-size:>We truly never know how much time we have left\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>I\u2019ve said it so many times in the past, but it bears repeating -we truly have no idea of just how long we\u2019ll have with our parents. This last year has really proven that beyond a doubt. Way too many kids- both young and old- were forced to say goodbye to mom and dad long before they were ready (although we\u2019re never truly ready). For those who made the most of the time with their parents, at least they\u2019ll always have those memories to hold onto. Sadly, way too many now live like Betty, with regret over the things left unsaid, the time left unspent, the hugs left ungiven.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>It\u2019s easy to respect and love our parents when everything is great between us. If you get along with them, caring for them really doesn\u2019t take much effort. It\u2019s not even something you think about, something you need to be reminded to do. You just do it, as naturally as breathing.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>What if everything isn\u2019t great, though? Maybe, like Sue and Betty, you clash with them over politics, religion, or other major fundamental issues. Perhaps you\u2019ve never gotten along with them in the first place. What if caring for them isn\u2019t really something that comes naturally to you?\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>If that\u2019s the case\u2026, do it anyway. I know, that sounds like such a dismissive thing to say, so let me elaborate a bit.\n<h4><span style='\"color:' font-size:>Care for Your Parents Even If They Didn\u2019t Always Care For You\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Last year, I shared a list of duties that we have toward our parents when they get older, and some of the comments were heartbreaking to me. A few readers pointed out that they never received care and love from their parents when they were younger, so why should they give it now that their parents are older?\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>I want to make excuses for their parents because it\u2019s hard for me to fathom not being there for my own children. To say, \u201cOh, well their generation was different,\u201d or \u201cmaybe they did the best they could in difficult circumstances.\u201d The truth is there\u2019s no excuse that will bring them comfort, that will make it okay. There\u2019s very little more painful in this world than feeling like your own mom or dad abandoned you or didn\u2019t really love you. So how on earth can I say \u201ccare for them anyway\u201d with a straight face?\n<h4><span style='\"color:' font-size:>It has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Here\u2019s the thing: caring for those parents- those who never cared for you- has nothing to do with helping them and everything to do with helping yourself. For your own peace of mind, do it so that you never have to live with regret. Because even if you think you don\u2019t give two hoots about those people who weren\u2019t there for you, when they\u2019re gone you may feel differently. By then, it\u2019ll be too late.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>A friend of mine thought she didn\u2019t care a shred about her father. He was never there for her a day in her childhood. In fact, he only reached out after she was an adult. She thought that right up until the day he died. Heck, she thought it for over a decade after that. Then, one day out of the blue, she suddenly did care. Of course, it was way too late by then.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>I\u2019m not saying you have to forgive your parents. You should never force forgiveness. I\u2019m not saying you have to act like the past never happened and that you\u2019re not still angry. I\u2019m just saying care for them. Care for them the way you wish they\u2019d cared for you.\n<p><span style='\"font-size:'>Do it so that 20, 30, even 40 years from now, you\u2019re not sitting there on the other side of the equation with your kids caring for you, wishing that you\u2019d maybe made more of the time you had left with them. I hope that makes sense. Basically, if you can\u2019t do it for them, do it for yourself.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Just because she&rsquo;s your mom and she&rsquo;s going to love you forever, no matter what you can&rsquo;t treat her just any old way and think it doesn&rsquo;t matter. Don&rsquo;t treat the person who loves you the most&hellip; the worst. Don&rsquo;t take her for granted. 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