{"id":71396,"date":"2024-03-25T17:09:02","date_gmt":"2024-03-25T10:09:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/alternatech.net\/?p=71396"},"modified":"2024-03-25T17:09:02","modified_gmt":"2024-03-25T10:09:02","slug":"be-the-mom-you-want-to-be-not-what-others-say-you-should-be","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/be-the-mom-you-want-to-be-not-what-others-say-you-should-be\/","title":{"rendered":"Be the Mom YOU Want to Be, Not What Others Say You Should Be"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u2019m not sure who needs to hear this (pretty sure we all do at one point or another, though), but it\u2019s way past time to stop letting others try to tell you how you should parent your kids. Be the mom YOU want to be, not what everyone else says you should be.\n

Everyone has a different opinion on what makes a good mom\n
While it\u2019s definitely not exclusive to social media, I see it a lot on sites like Facebook, especially in parenting groups. One mom will ask a totally non-controversial question like, \u201cWhere can I find pants for a tall and skinny teenage boy?\u201d (Real question from a real friend, by the way). She\u2019ll get maybe two actual recommendations. The other 2,000 responses range from, \u201cCall his doctor, he shouldn\u2019t be skinny,\u201d to \u201cThe word \u2018skinny\u2019 is offensive, please edit your post,\u201d to \u201cA recent study shows that pants are dangerous! You should be ashamed for buying them!\u201d\n
By the end of the conversation, not only does she still have no idea where to buy pants, but now she\u2019s questioning whether she\u2019s even worthy of having a son to buy pants for in the first place! I\u2019ll share with you the same Jodi Picoult quote I gave her to ease her fears. It goes, \u201cRest easy, real mothers. The very fact that you worry about being a good mom means that you already are one.\u201d\n
If you\u2019re trying, you\u2019re more than just a good mom, you\u2019re a GREAT mom!\n
Another quote (source unknown) that I really love:\n
I see you there mama, trying your best. I see you showing up each day, even though you feel exhausted. I see you making tough choices for your family even when you\u2019re not sure if they are right. I see you working tirelessly, even when it seems never-ending. I see you doing an amazing job, even though you doubt yourself. I see you mama, and you are more than enough.\n
It\u2019s so easy to get overwhelmed with doubts and fears that we\u2019re not doing enough for our kids. That we\u2019re not being enough for them. A single mom who works 60 hours a week to provide for her family worries that she\u2019s not giving them enough of her time. Meanwhile, a stay-at-home mom worries that she\u2019s not giving her kids enough independence or space to grow. Part-time working moms worry that they\u2019re giving too much and not enough at the same time.\n
Round and round it goes, each of us in different boats but all riding along together in this great ocean of parenthood. Each of us worrying about different things, but worrying, nonetheless. As long as you are trying your very best to be the mom you want to be and the mom your kids need, then you\u2019re not just enough\u2026you\u2019re more than enough.\n
If you\u2019re being the mom your kids need, you\u2019re doing it right\n
The only kind of mom we need to be is the kind our kids NEED us to be. Sometimes, that means being the mom who works 60 hours a week to make sure our children have food to eat, a roof over their heads, and clothes on their backs. Other times, it means being the mom who willingly gives up her career temporarily to stay home. Sometimes it means saying no even when you want to say yes. Other times it even means saying yes even when you want to say no.\n
It\u2019s something different for everyone, and that\u2019s fine. For me, it means being the kind of mom that my kids can always come to. I saw this quote a long time ago and it just stuck with me. It goes, \u201cI never want my kids to mess up and think \u2018mom is going to kill me.\u2019 I want their first thought to be \u2018I need to call my mom.\u2019”\n
It\u2019s important to me that they feel like they can always come to me. That they know that even when they mess up, I will still love them. That I will always come for them when they need me. That I\u2019m always there for them, no matter what. Walking beside them so they never feel alone. Holding them up when they need support and cheering them on when they find their own feet and are ready to stand alone. Yes, I have a quote for this, too.\n
As your mother, I promise you that I will always be in one of three places\u2026In front of you to cheer you on, behind you to have your back, or next to you so that you aren\u2019t walking alone.\n
If you\u2019re honoring the honor of parenting, you\u2019re doing it right\n
I\u2019ll leave you with one last amazing quote (source unknown) that pulls all of this together beautifully. Again, I can\u2019t find the original source for it (that\u2019s usually how it goes with mom memes). It says, \u201cWhat an honor parenting is. To get to be a little someone\u2019s everything. To love them and guide them. And treasure them for the rest of your life.\u201d\n
As long as you\u2019re honoring that honor and trying to be the mom your kids really need, you\u2019re doing a swell job. There\u2019s no rule book. There\u2019s no one right way to parent, no checklist of things you need to do, say, think, or feel. Do your best. It\u2019s enough. I promise!\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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