{"id":72019,"date":"2024-03-29T17:07:30","date_gmt":"2024-03-29T10:07:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/?p=72019"},"modified":"2024-03-29T17:07:30","modified_gmt":"2024-03-29T10:07:30","slug":"be-proud-of-your-kids-for-who-they-are-not-just-what-they-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/be-proud-of-your-kids-for-who-they-are-not-just-what-they-do\/","title":{"rendered":"Be Proud of Your Kids for Who They Are, Not Just What They Do"},"content":{"rendered":"
I just feel like we, as a society, put too much value on external achievements, and it\u2019s actually damaging our kids. If we constantly focus our pride on the things that they can DO, what happens when they CAN\u2019T do those things?\n For example, say a child always makes straight As. Her parents constantly tell her how proud they are of her grades. Then, one year, she struggles in math. She still gets As in every other class, but no matter how much work she puts into it, she can barely scrape out a D in that class.\n Even if her parents don\u2019t punish her for bad grades, chances are she\u2019ll punish herself. Why? Because she feels like she\u2019s letting her parents down. She\u2019s tied her self-worth to external accomplishments rather than internal characteristics.\n Did her parents mean for that to happen? Were they actively trying to make her feel like she only mattered if she got good grades? Of course not! I mean, no good parent purposely places unrealistically high expectations on their kids and purposely makes them feel bad about themselves when they fail to live up to them.\n Our kids are facing a mental health pandemic of epic proportions. So, I feel like we parents need to find ways to boost their self-esteem and help them see that they are more than just a list of achievements.\n We need to say \u201cI\u2019m proud of you\u201d in ways that focus on who they are, not what they can do. Here are some examples. Obviously, tailor them so that they make sense to your child.\n Pride shouldn\u2019t just be tied to what kids can DO I just feel like we, as a society, put too much value on external achievements, and it\u2019s actually damaging our kids. If we constantly focus our pride on the things that they can DO, what happens when they CAN\u2019T do those things? For example, say\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":72024,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"Pride shouldn\u2019t just be tied to what kids can DO. I just feel like we, as a society, put too much value on external achievements...","_seopress_robots_index":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[642],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-72019","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-moral-story"},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/be-proud.png","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/72019","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=72019"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/72019\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/72024"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=72019"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=72019"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inovatestory.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=72019"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}These 10 Ways to Say, \u201cI\u2019m Proud of You\u201d Focus on Who Your Child IS, Not What They DO\n
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